Woman Demands Boyfriend Wake Her Up Every Morning for Work, She’s Fired After He Refuses One Day

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    r/AITAH 5 days ago ForsakenFigure6334 AITAH for refusing to wake my girlfriend up for work, which led to her getting fired?
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    I [26m] have been in a relationship with my girlfriend, Jess [28f] for three years. Jess and I live together.
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    Jess is not a morning person. This is primarily due to the fact that she's up until 2 or 3am every day on her phone despite having to wake up at 8am. I've tried to get her to start going to bed earlier so she could wake up on time, but she says that would leave her no time to do her own things. Seeing as she only works until
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    4pm, this is patently false, but I decided not to press the issue. Generally, I have to wake Jess up. I wake up at 5:00, run for an hour, get home at 6:00, shower, eat breakfast, and use my computer a bit. I'll start waking Jess up at around 7:30.
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    I fully understand it's ridiculous to have to wake a 28-year-old woman up, but I honestly don't mind, or at least I wouldn't mind if it weren't for the fact that waking Jess up is a nightmare. I start by gradually turning on the lights at around 7:30, starting with the bedside lamp. Then | begin gently trying to wake her
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    up. If she gets up around this time, she'll go to the bathroom, and then I'll go back to the room to find her asleep again.
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    The worst part about waking her up is she's so ornery in the morning. She'll use expletives directed at me, insult me, and then later when I bring up her words, she'll just say "I was sleepy and out of it. What do you want me to do?"
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    Well, last Friday she pushed things a bit too far. I was waking Jess up as usual, and when she walked past me to go to the bathroom, she made this exaggerated dry-heaving sound at me. Then she said, "You smell. Take a shower." I had already taken a shower and always keep good hygiene.
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    That evening I told her that our deal with me waking her up every day was done. I was done with her tantrums, done with her insults, and done with her frankly stupid facial expressions with how out of it she was. I told her that I'm not moving a finger to make sure she gets up for work on time. She was naturally upset
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    about this, but I said she could wake herself up.
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    Today was Monday, and lo and behold, she overslept and was over an hour late. Since she had already been written up twice during her probationary period for her job, this was an automatic firing. Around noon she called me incoherently yelling about how I got her fired. I had to hang up on her to get back to work. When I
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    got home, she immediately started shrieking at me more, and then demanded half my salary until she found a better job. I feel like making her go cold turkey on waking up might have been too sudden, and apparently she really liked the job she had. Should I have at least tried to wake her up?
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    truckleak1984 5d ago NTA and she sounds pretty toxic. Are you sure this is a relationship that makes you happy?
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    UrPetiteCurvyGi... 5d ago. NTA. It sounds like you've been trying to help Jess manage her mornings for quite a while, but her behavior has made it difficult for you to continue. You're not responsible for her choices, especially if you've communicated your
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    concerns and tried to support her in the past.
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    Open_Negotiati... • 5d ago • Boss imma be real she just sounds abusive
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    MintJulep Testos... • 5d ago Get rid of this child from your life. •
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    Snackinpenguin • 5d ago • NTA. Dude, your girl is abusive. Flat out. She gives you when you try to wake her up, and you have to baby her doing this with gradual wake up nudges. Every. Single. Day.
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    Then she is constantly cranky at you? She doesn't get to do that with coworkers early in the morning, so why does she get to with you?
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    It's feeling pretty rich then that she's demanding half your salary because SHE was late/fired. That's fully on her. This isn't going to get better as she still blames you and isn't taking accountability for her ways.
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    Infinite_Materia... • 5d ago. NTA she's 28 years old. She can figure her own out by that point. It's not that difficult to get up by 8am.

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